OMG! Life should not be this complicated, and I should not be getting this irritated over stupid stuff. Why was everyone making me crazy? Their bad behaviors? Their need to always have the last word? Their bad manners? Their constant complaining? Good thing this is not a multiple-choice quiz, unless, of course, there is an “All of the Above” answer.
Meanwhile at Fubar …
Maniacal Mean Marsha was being just that … maniacal and mean. Her rude behavior was driving Phrantic Phoebe up the wall.
What can you do?
I recently read a study that revealed that people who have good friends tend to be happier, healthier, and live a longer, more prosperous life. But what about those friends that make you crazy? You know the ones who always exhibit some offensive behavior or chew up your time whining and complaining– hoping to find someone to latch on to so they can share their pain. Misery loves company, right? Wrong!
After too many years in management to count, I have come to the conclusion that most people use their behavior–good or bad–as a method of engagement with others because most human beings are looking for some commonality of connection. What comes easiest for some is complaining, grousing and sharing their misery, thereby driving the rest of us nuts. They are looking for someone to validate that what they are thinking, feeling, and “going through” is ok. They want to believe that their feelings of unhappiness are ok, that their anger is somehow justified. In an attempt to connect with others, these people will grab at the heels of anyone they can to spread the gloom.
When tempted to be annoyed by other people to the extent that it becomes detrimental to myself, I am reminded of a very simple trick to get my mind off the negative and on to the positive: I work consistently at telling myself that every thought I think needs to be for the greater good of all involved. I actively and passionately work towards avoiding gossip and negativity about these crabby crappies all day, every day, making a conscious decision that they will not impact my life. Despite the fact that I have gotten really, really good at controlling my thoughts and keeping my emotions in check, I have not yet mastered the art of mind control and cannot control the thoughts of those around me. So, instead of allowing my time and energy to be depleted by others, I instead ignore the behavior and bless and release them to their greater good, far, far away from me.
A challenge to my blog readers…
The universe rewards positive motion, so you can’t let the behavior of others drive you up the wall. Every time YOU control YOUR thoughts and focus only on thoughts that are for the greater good of all involved, you will reap the rewards in abundance because you will have plenty of extra time to focus on improving your life, instead of getting trapped in the negativity of someone else’s. This skill requires practice, but it is a skill that pays off, as it keeps the wolves from nipping at your heels. Send me an e-mail at email@example.com or catch me on Facebook (Wendywoman) to let me know how you are doing.