Whose the crabbiest crappiest of them all? It was time to leave for the airport yet again. I stood in front of the bathroom mirror, pondering the scowl that starred back at me. It wasn’t the missing concealer and foundation that had me disgruntled. Aside from the personal aesthetics, I wondered if I was really satisfied with who was looking back at me. Was I happy with myself? Did I see characteristics in others that I saw in me as well? Were people really my external barometer showing me the kind of person I was inside? Mirror, mirror on the wall, do I like my reflection after all?
Meanwhile at Fubar …
Playing his usual blame-game, Methane Man looked into the mirror and asked which Crabby Crappy to nail for Fubar’s latest failure. Expecting the answer to be someone else, he flipped out when he saw it was all himself!
What can you do?
How many times have you witnessed bad behavior in someone else and heard yourself mumble, “I would never do that.” Gotta love your mind, because it can play tricks on you. We manage to sugar coat our own bad behaviors, making them more palatable to us. That makes them more attractive so that we don’t do the hard work of getting rid of them.
How locked-in we human beings get: locked-into doing things a certain way; locked-into old behavior patterns that once worked for us (or perhaps never worked for us); locked-into doing things at the same time, same place, with the same people – right or wrong. While it is important to have self-awareness if you want to make changes in your life, often it is difficult to have a level of intellectual honesty when it comes to our own behavior. Fortunately, I have discovered a simple way to determine what I need to work on from a personal development standpoint. It took me a long time to figure out that everything around me is a mirror and characteristics I see in others that agitate me are the same characteristics (or some version thereof) that – if honest – I need to work on myself. By using the mirror methodology, two things happen. First, I know where to deploy my time and resources to further my journey on the path of transformation; and, second, I have a much higher level of tolerance for the behavior of others because I view it as a tool to be used in my own life. That means instead of letting the bad behavior of others agitate me, I use it to inspire me to my next level of greatness.
A challenge to my blog readers…
Have you ever been around someone who was your own personal sand paper – you know the people who just rub you the wrong way? We have all been with those “rough” people from time to time and certain traits or personality characteristics grate on your very last nerve. Instead of dismissing them and banishing them to Snow White’s forest for good, take a breath and do a little internal investigation. By working on those traits you don’t like about yourself, you will find yourself less annoyed by others with those same traits. Dust that mirror off, look at yourself with an honest light and begin your transformation process. I am confident you’ll like what is looking back at you in the mirror. Send me an e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or catch me on Facebook (Wendywoman) to let me know how you are doing.
What does your internal mirror reflect?