I sat waiting for the meeting to start when I realized I was sick to my stomach. What the heck? Why was I so nervous? I had done everything possible to prepare for the upcoming event, but my fear was quickly becoming a barrier that would cause me to miss out on this rewarding, life-changing experience if I didn’t manage it right away. Afraid, Who me?
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Frantic Phoebe loved using NO NO NO to manage her fear so she could ignore the ups and downs of life. Wendywoman taught her to confront her trepidation head on, so she could coast through fear because few scary scenarios will ever live up to the negative disasters we manage to create in our minds.
What can you do?
What is it about some situations and activities that frighten some people but don’t even cause others to flinch? After all, the situations are the same; however, fear becomes the variable that changes the equation. When you plant negative thoughts and emotions about what might go wrong, it is amazing how quickly those itty bitty seeds of anxiety can sprout into such an alarm that it manifests itself physically and before you know it, you are paralyzed.
Hard to tell what is worse: all the crazy thoughts we conjure up in our minds about what might happen or living through something when itactually happens. More often than not, the trepidation leading up to an event turns out to be worse than the event itself. It took me a long time to figure out that we never know how strong we are until strong is the only choice we have. Most of the time, coasting through fear helps us discover our real strength. I’ll never forget the first time that I was forced to do a speech for a large audience after winning a sales award. What did I know about creating and delivering a meaningful message; but just taking part in that activity and asserting myself when the odds seemed to be against me, allowed me to emerge relatively unscathed on the other side. And, by conquering something that frightened me beyond belief, it has led to some great blessings, as I now spend a good amount of time delivering inspirational speeches, which is very rewarding. Coasting through your fear requires that you take a few risks, sprinkled with practice and patience. Since it is often challenging to act when you are in the stronghold of fear, start small. With every step you take – every time you are willing to stare fear in the face – you’ll gain strength and learn how to confront future fears with confidence.
A challenge to my blog readers…
Instead of developing those negative, dark thoughts, flip on the light switch and shed some light on those nagging, paralyzing fears. When you do, don’t empower them, don’t feed them and don’t let them build a dark room in your mind. Develop an action plan on how you are going to overcome your fear one step at a time. On a daily basis, be diligent to address your fears and work to overcome them at your own speed. I’m not saying you need to tackle them like a linebacker but bring them out into the open and show them they have no more power over you. Your due diligence will pay off! Send me an e-mail email@example.com or catch me on Facebook (Wendywoman) to let me know how you are doing.