Wendywoman Finds her Voice

August 20, 2012 · 6 comments

“Why won’t you ever listen to me? I have so many good ideas if only you people would listen! Why do you ignore me like this? Why can’t you see what I have to offer?” The thoughts kept rolling around my head as I sat silent.  It’s not like I couldn’t talk, so where was my voice when I needed it?

Meanwhile at Fubar …

After years of being bullied by Maniacal Mean Marsha, weak and defeated, Lame-O Leo seemed to have lost his voice.

What can you do?

I woke up in my hospital bed to the words, “How are you?”  I actually felt pretty good, but when I tried to speak, I had no voice.  Have you ever taken something for granted, only to realize how valuable it was once it was gone?   It took 2 weeks for my voice to return, and during that time, I pondered how many times I had lost my voice in the past. Maybe not literally like this time, but perhaps more accurately, I had allowed it to be lost or sometimes even stolen.

You are born on to this planet to paint the masterpiece called Your Life.  One of the many tools you are given to work on your masterpiece is your voice.  Yet sometimes we allow our voice to be suppressed by people or things that are happening around us, rendering this valuable tool useless.  There is often some unique incident whereby the direction of your life is changed by whether or not you use or lose your voice.  These may include loss of employment, a health crisis, being misjudged or hurting someone, falling in or out of love, betrayal, or figuring out what your true passion is and making a decision to go for it.  Every time you have a major crisis or a decision to make in your life, you are going to have to decide whether to remain paralyzed in fear (lose your voice) or make a choice to do something, anything (use your voice).

Too many times we use our silence to blend into the shadows and hide because we feel like a second-class citizen.  We look at others and think, “They are awesome;I’m average. They are beautiful; I’m plain. They are smart;I feel dumb.”   While I’m sure the people around you are talented in certain areas, by hiding and not allowing your voice to be heard, the rest of the world will never know how talented you are – and you are talented.  We all have gifts.  Sometimes people appreciate them, and sometimes they don’t.  That doesn’t mean that they aren’t a gift.  Don’t hide behind others at the expense of yourself.

There have been times on and off during the course of my career where I have silenced my voice away, believing I wasn’t worthy of anyone listening to it. After working for a company that never listened to me– constantly telling me that I was new to the industry and didn’t understand — I moved on.   Almost 2 years later, I got a call from the former regional president asking to have dinner.  “Why do you have such great results at your new company?  You never tried any of that unique stuff here,” he asked.  I sat silent for a second, and then finally answered, “Because now I don’t work with people who tell me how stupid all my ideas are!” Yep I found my voice, never to be lost again, albeit I do give it a rest when the circumstances are appropriate.

A challenge to my blog readers…

Generally speaking, the more spontaneous the event that causes you to lose your voice, the longer it seems to remain lost which means you need to act quickly.  Instead of zoning out and listening to the voices in your head that tell you to just drift aimlessly through the circumstances at hand, recognize that you have an opportunity to use this experience to grow.  You were created to leave your mark on this world.  You can make a difference, but will you?  If that is going to happen, you are going to have to use your voice.  You have something to offer, but if you settle for silence, we’ll all be shortchanged.  Send me an e-mail at wendywoman@wendywoman.com or catch me on Facebook (Wendywoman) to let me know how you are doing.

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Tenacious Todd August 20, 2012 at 6:33 pm

“You are born on to this planet to paint the masterpiece called Your Life”

POWERFUL sentence!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


LameO Leo August 21, 2012 at 3:34 pm

Wendywoman, thanks so much for your good advice! Would you watch me, and make sure I use my voice well? Your input means a lot… Am I asking too much with my new voice? Oh, no…


Maniacal Mean Marsha August 21, 2012 at 3:34 pm

Oh, thanks a lot, Wendywoman. Blaming me for Lame-o Leo’s lost voice? Oh please! Maybe if he weren’t so lame, I wouldn’t have to yell at him all the time!


Box of Rocks Bill August 21, 2012 at 3:35 pm

I lost my voice once. I determined that it was due to a meteorological phenomenon combined with a bad bout of allergies. It was a very damp summer, you see. My then wife offered me some cough drops, but I don’t like the way they taste, so I developed a new device that reduced my throat swelling by using a shrink ray. It cost about a million bucks, but it works just as well as a cough drop…


Not Me Lee August 21, 2012 at 3:35 pm

Fubar is the ultimate cesspool of bad workplace juju. Why on Earth would I want to make a difference?! I would rather save that energy for one day, when I am the boss of a new company. It’s gonna be awesome, and everything will go my way!


Gina August 29, 2012 at 1:01 pm

Amazing how sometimes we assume that others should KNOW what’s in our head and we shouldn’t have to voice it…another way of losing your voice.


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