Ohhhh! He’s the last person I want to see, I thought, running into the tumultuous troublemaker who made my life a living hell at the office. Our last meeting was a spirited discussion that left us both angry and pointing fingers about who was at fault. I felt bad about the things I had said, but what he said was worse. Surely he would call to apologize for his awful behavior! Didn’t he know that every minute that passed without an apology, he sabotaged his own happiness? Wait a minute, what about me? Why hadn’t I called to apologize?
Meanwhile in Fubar’s Accounting Department…
Lame-O Leo was mesmerized by Maniacal Mean Marsha’s words of apology. “I’m so sorry, Leo, for all the mean, rotten things I have said to you,” she purred. “I know what a witch I can sometimes be.” Leo smiled from ear to ear, imaging how great life at FUBAR was about to become, just in time to hear Marsha snort, “April Fools Day LOSER!
What can you do?
“I’m sorry” and “You’re forgiven” have to be some of the most underutilized words in the English language. It took me a long time to realize that forgiveness was a very powerful tool, if only I would learn to use it. So often we see people dragging around their “baggage” from yesterday, generally resulting from some type of bad experience, i.e., failed marriage, lost job, betrayal by a friend, allowing it to have a significant impact on their today. If only they could see that dragging around baggage, which continues to get heavier as years go by, completely negates their ability to lead a happy, whole, healthy, productive life.
I never really understood what people were talking about when they said that “forgiveness would set me free.” It seemed to me that forgiving someone who had hurt me would let that person off the hook for the bad behavior. It took years of practice to finally figure out that every time I hung on to anger and resentment, it was like an anchor that kept me permanently tethered to the person I wanted so badly to get away from. Interestingly enough, used as a tool, an anchor can stabilize you when you are in the eye of the storm. However, if you never pull it up and better yet cut the line, it becomes more of a weapon because it can keep you stuck in the fear, doubt, anger and resentment of your yesterday. I now start my day by saying: I forgive everyone and everyone forgives me. I forgive myself. Forgiveness now dissolves all seeming obstacles and makes clear, easy and successful my way. This severs the line to all that baggage and allows me to start every day with a clean page to write the story of Wendy’s life, not having anything spill over from one of my earlier chapters.
A challenge to my blog readers…
Regret is a heavy thing and no one’s skeletal frame is designed to carry that much weight. We can’t change the past, but we can change today,to make tomorrow better than yesterday. Forgive your past regrets and don’t let them fester like an untreated wound. By forgiving and truly forgetting, you are freeing yourself from an emotional infection that may not have a cure. Do what you need to do to cut yourself free from that anchor! E-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org or catch me on Facebook (Wendywoman) to let me know how you are doing.
Will you sever the cord of anger and regret today?