It’s a testimony to skull design that my head was not exploding! The thoughts of stupidity swirling around in my mind were gaining strength. The day before, the wrong choice of words used in a meeting led me down a rabbit hole of self-criticism, causing me to second guess my comments and intentions. I wonder if the National Weather Service could issue a severe storm warning for the streets of my mind because it definitely wasn’t safe for me to be walking around in my own body. I needed to silence this mental disc jockey NOW!
Meanwhile at Fubar Corp …
Wendywoman was on her way to give her first official speech at FUBAR, when thoughts of fear, anger, doubt and worry began to overtake her en route. The words of dis-courage-ment spun around in her head like a toxic tornado! Her own worst critic, she had to stop and reach deep to find faith in herself so she could dump the head trash and courageously move forward.
What can you do?
What if there was a person who sabotaged your efforts at every turn?How would you feel about that person? What if that person was constantly coming up with reasons to discourage you, always talking you out of taking action? What if that person was you? Are you your own worst enemy? Is your motto: If at first I don’t succeed, I give up?
Who needs enemies when the biggest critic in life is often the person staring back at you in the bathroom mirror while brushing your teeth? It took a very long time for me to realize that the history of my life had nothing to do with the destiny of my life and the same goes for you. You are the creator of your life and while the possibilities are endless, you determine the probability of what actually manifests. The limitations placed on you require your cooperation if they are going to hold you back. The good news is that you don’t have to cooperate. Everything that you have ever achieved is a result of the sum total of all the choices you have made in the past – good or bad. If your choices were good, congratulations! If your choices were bad, you have a unique opportunity to use those experiences to your advantage. In fact, it is predominantly all the bad choices that I have made in the past and hopefully learned from that have made me the woman I am today.
No matter what has happened in the past, you can change your choices so you can change your life. It just requires a little courage, faith, and persistence sprinkled with a dose of forgiveness to morph your inner critic to your inner cheerleader. Start making some deposits into the “bank of me” so that at some point, the credits will outweigh the deficits. Deficits will never go away; but they can be overcome. Carve out of your mind those thoughts that hold you back; carve out of your mind those thoughts that stifle you; carve out of your mind those thoughts that diminish you. Instead, say yes to your greatness because it is there, just waiting to be found so it can bloom and grow this spring!
A challenge to my blog readers…
Certain events occur in our lives leaving us feeling depleted of everything that makes us who we are. When you let your inner critic become the disc jockey of your mental airwaves, you give it permission to play an awful selection…noise, games and maybe even static. Make peace with those events that have caused you to rely on the voice of others and your inner critic and identify those thoughts that are spinning bad records in your mind. Once you do that, don’t just unplug the cord but cut it completely.
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Will you silence your inner critic today?
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I love your blog
Right on, WW. If you don’t haul in the anchors, or cut their ropes, it’s tough to get the boat sailing again. Self-inflicted impediments are the toughest to cut away but are also the most important.
I am too busy criticizing others to ever criticize myself. NEXT!
I think I just need a rose-colored mental bath, that should get my inner critic back to my liking!
But, Wendywoman, I don’t get it. If the critic is inside of my mind, how can I hear him talking? Sound travels through air, and my mind doesn’t have any air in it! I am so confused!
Wendywoman, I don’t know about this. Marcia told me that my inner critic isn’t harsh enough and I would be better off jumping off of the nearest bridge. Do you think she’s right? Do I need my inner critic to go to Marcia for training?
Talk about God shot! This is something I needed to hear today. Thanks WW. I’m going to find you on FB.
Thanks Shana! I had to reread my own blog AGAIN today! I think that silencing the inner critic almost has to become a morning ritual or step we take as we move forward into our day!