Wendywoman Turns Stumbling Stones into Stepping Stones…

April 24, 2012 · 7 comments

Exhausted, I stood on my deck with the wind howling at my back and buried my face in my hands to hide the tears, wishing that for once my life would take care of itself.   It was too much hard work, too much time and effort just to be disappointed by the results yet again.   Why is it that just when I think the road to success is a straight and narrow path, a sharp turn comes out of nowhere and an unexpected crash occurs?

Meanwhile in Fubar’s Sales Department

Preferring a ride on some magical elevator to success, Sharkman Zak was feeling defeated by the constant obstacles and detours that seemed to get in the way of achieving his dreams and desires.  Shining a light on his path so he could see clearly, Wendywoman helped Zak realize that every step he took brought him closer to his goal, even if he tripped a few times along the way.

What can you do?

Wouldn’t it be cool if there really were a magical elevator to success?  Preferably an express (forget that whole notion of patience) where I could get in, push a button, and with no detours, delays, or pain along the way, arrive to claim the dream my heart most desired.   Nice idea, but unfortunately the elevator to success is out of order:  you’ll need to take the steps.

A couple of problems arise when you are forced to take the steps.  First and foremost, the steps are way more work than the elevator – work that only you can do.  Second, the steps are littered with danger.  It is possible and perhaps even probable that you will trip up the steps or perhaps even unexpectedly fall down the steps on occasion.   Frankly, that’s okay as long as you get back up, figure out why you fell to begin with (yes, I know you may have been pushed by the bad guy), and use it to help you climb even higher.  Let’s face it:  crappy things do happen to good people. In fact, crappy things happen every day to most everyone.  That’s why life is the perfect teacher.  Because living is a potential series of problems and most of us are either in one now, just coming out of one, or ready to embark on another.  Our job isn’t to ignore or complain about difficult situations or setbacks – stumbling stones – but instead to acknowledge them, learn from them, practice forgiveness for all involved parties and then use the experience as a stepping stone to our greater good.  It is possible for the same event to be viewed, responded to, and judged through a different perspective.  Or, in the words of Winston Churchill, “When going through hell, keep going.”  How we think and respond can often be far more dangerous than any adversity we may face.  No matter how many times you trip and fall, whether it is your own doing or someone has pushed you, get back up and keep on going.   Every time you are forced to pick yourself up, you are becoming stronger and stronger.

Our lives stretch out in front of us and behind us like a staircase, leading us higher and higher to our divine destiny.  How you show up and respond to your life today will have an enormous impact on who you will become and what you will be experiencing years from now.

A challenge to my blog readers…

All of us, from time to time, have stumbled, tripped and swayed through certain life situations losing our equilibrium a little bit each time. Instead of being discouraged that you are experiencing these bumps, be grateful because they are disguised as learning experiences put in your path to teach you something. Just like a rock can look plain and mundane on the outside, most have a mass of shiny, sparkly crystals on the inside. You are no different. Don’t judge yourself by the outside, instead look at what you possess inside and remember that even rocks go through some weathering in order to become beautiful gems. Send me an e-mail at wendywoman@wendywoman.com or catch me on Facebook (Wendywoman) to let me know how you are doing.

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Tenacious Todd April 24, 2012 at 2:29 pm

Stumbling stones just make us stronger! Winners never quit…quitters never win!

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Just sayin' April 24, 2012 at 4:27 pm

The one, fabulous, lesson I have learned from you Wendywoman, is that each tumble is actually a blessing in disguise and that there is something to be learned from each and every experience (good or bad) in life. The key and the test is in how you approach those situations. I’m greatful for the good and equally greatful for the bad, because now I focus on the lesson NOT the situation. I believe I’m better for it…

Love you, girl…

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Diane April 25, 2012 at 1:00 pm

What I appreciate about you,Wendy, is your ability to to hit the target. You don’t deny the daily crap. You offer responses to the difficulties that encourage us to meet it and often cause us to rise above it. Can’t say how much I appreciate your words.

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Sharkman Zak April 25, 2012 at 3:40 pm

Wendywoman, you are such a rock star for helping me get through those steps. When you’re as naturally skilled in sales, as I am, it is really confusing when something difficult comes along. I had no idea that you couldn’t sweet talk the steps to success into bending to your will!

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Methane Man April 25, 2012 at 3:41 pm

Too bad there aren’t any elevators. Have you ever smelled a fart in an elevator? It is the most wonderful, magnificent stench…. Ahhhh…..

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Box of Rocks Bill April 25, 2012 at 3:42 pm

I proposed installing an elevator at FUBAR several years ago. It would have been a wonderful convenience and great for our image among our clients. Methane Man was on board, but Maniacal Mean Marsha turned it down because I drew the blueprints with a crayon. Oops.

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Carol April 25, 2012 at 7:35 pm

Wendywoman these are words of wisdom. Words we sometimes don’t want to hear. We live in a Microwave society…we need to learn to return to the days of the Slow cooker. Slow down and make each step purposeful. Remember all that if we never experience the darkness, we wouldn’t appreciate the light.

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