You Are Your Own Kryptonite: How To Find Your Superhero DNA Part 2 – Why making minimum payment into your life gets you nowhere

August 20, 2013 · 1 comment


All superheroes have enemies that work tirelessly to stop them from performing their acts of greatness. We, as human beings, are no different. If we aren’t careful, there are plenty of villains that will try to sneak into our lives to steal our greatness when we aren’t paying attention and keep us from all that we are destined to be. Meet and learn how to defeat our first villain, Not Me Lee.

While staring back at myself while brushing my teeth, I read the affirmations I had taped to the bathroom mirror just the day before. “I am whole. I am perfect. I am strong. I am powerful.” And the list went on. That was fabulous, until I left the bathroom to walk around the house, only to see a complete mess, the culmination of what seemed like a lifetime’s worth of mistakes. I never realized you could memorialize your mistakes, but I had managed to do exactly that. My mistakes were like photographs, etched into my mind to remind me what a failure I was. Looking around the room, I wondered what it was going to take to permanently erase the negatives I had so cleverly stored in my mind and start anew. Whatever it was going to take, I felt certain it would mean some work on my part. But I was so great at having an alibi for my life. “I’m not doing it; it’s not my responsibility; it’s not my fault; it’s not my job! Not me, not me, not me!” I walked back into the bathroom and was shocked at what I saw: staring back at me in the bathroom mirror was the only person who could do the work required to change my life: me!

Anybody with a credit card balance knows that if you make the minimum payment, you will waste a lot of time and spend a lot of money, but accomplish virtually nothing. The same can be said for your life. Invest the minimum time and effort into your life and you will accomplish nothing. Not to mention, like begets like, so if you don’t have the desire ‘n action (DNA) to help yourself, don’t expect assistance from anyone else to magically show up along the way. No book, motivational speaker, teacher, or class can make your life better without you as a consistent and willing participant. So let’s get to work.

The first thing you need to understand is that just because you can’t see evidence of your greatness in your outer life, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist inside of you. So often because we don’t know it is there and have no clue how to access it, we sit idle, doing nothing to help it emerge.  We wait and we pray, then pray and wait for things to get better some more. Most of us want our lives to get better, i.e., give me some more of that green stuff to pay my bills with, but we don’t understand the work required. “Not me! I’m not doing it! Not me! It’s not my job!” Then we get crabby crappy about the results we didn’t get from the work we didn’t do, making matters worse!

Every day we wake up and everything in our bodies is different, but one thing should always remain the same: your commitment to yourself to always do your personal best. Think about it: would you really wake up and say, “I think I will do less than my best today,” but often that is exactly what we do. Perhaps you don’t want to go the extra mile because you have been burned in the past. You went the extra mile at work and somebody else took the credit so now you do barely the amount of work required to get by. Do that long enough and you will be living in the dreadful world of maximum mediocrity. Things won’t be good enough to get better and won’t be bad enough to end. Talk about suffering! Of course there is another consequence in that mediocrity will kill any chance of advancement. You will also never reach great heights of success if you only perform at high levels when others are watching. You never do your personal best for anyone but yourself. Knowing that you have maximized your potential and made the most of all your capabilities is a gift everyday.

This week, discipline yourself to always do your personal best. Otherwise, you will never know what you can do this lifetime and will miss out on all you were destined to be. Defeat “Not Me Lee,” and rid yourself of the “it’s not my job” attitude and insert “Yes Me, I’ll give it my best.” At the end of the day, the measurement of accountability to determine whether or not you did your personal best belongs only to you. Before you close your eyes at night, ask yourself, “Did I do my personal best?” If yes, give yourself a hug and drift off to sleep. If no, then figure out why and what to do differently tomorrow. Nobody can ever hold you accountable for doing your personal best, because your personal best changes every day based on the circumstances that surround you. Just like you don’t want anybody telling you whether or not you did your personal best, you should never judge anyone else. From the White House to the crack house, you never know what is going on in someone’s life and for certain, it’s never as it seems. Do the absolute best possible while taking into consideration the circumstances you are in. However, don’t let your circumstances be the excuse for doing anything less than your best.

At the end of each day, I hope you are serious about finding your greatness, because finding your greatness isn’t just about you. It is about those of us whom will be the recipient of what your greatness has to offer the world. You have a responsibility to yourself and to this planet to find your gifts and to share them with others. Come back next week for Part 3 of the 11 part series — You Are Your Own Kryptonite: How To Find Your Superhero DNA — where we will meet our next villain, Toxic Ted.

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Rita Hodges August 23, 2013 at 4:47 am

WoW, absolutely fantastic!! You know, right when I was reading about your affiromations, I took my sticky notepad and wrote out positive notes to myself and posted them lined across the top of my desk eye level for me to see always!! It is absolutely a wonderful idea. Thank you so much Wendy. I don’t know why I didn’t do it sooner but I’m looking forward to the results of seeing them each day and empowering myself in search of my greatness. Love you darlin!! Rita :)


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